Over a dinner conversation the other night, I asked one of Jamie's friends (divorced, early 40's, average/good looking guy ) how dating was going. Here's a part of the conversation:
"You wouldn't believe what's out there." he says (shaking his head).
"These girls are crazy. The pictures they send me ...I mean... I don't even have to try."
"So wait," I say "How do you meet these girls? Online?"
"No," he says "Out. Bars etc."
"And they just send you explicit pictures? Just because?" I ask.
"No, I get their number. We text. I ask if they can send me a picture and they automatically go there. They're no commitment. No demands. It's so easy. I just go with it.'"
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"So when you ask for a picture, it's like right off the bat you're seeing how far they'd go - and it's always that far?" I ask.
"Yep." he says.
"Is that what you want?"
"No, not really " he says. "It'd be nice to ask a girl out, pick the girl up, and go out on a normal date with normal conversation. Like back then."
WOW. Just wow!! What has happened out there in the real world?!!
I've been with Jamie a long time - i'm out of touch - but it sounds to me the dating world has gone to shit.
At least in Kristan Higgins books she makes dating crazy but kind of funny. I wonder if there are any books out there Higgins-like written in a guys perspective on how crazy women can be?
All this actually ties into the last book I read -
Arranged - as in she's so tired of being in bad relationships that she pays to be arranged in marriage. Several not believable parts and unanswered questions but I'm thinking overall I liked the story concept...
After getting this glimpse of what it's like out there - I can see how it might not be a stretch for people to go to the "arranged marriage" extreme.
